This essay focuses on teenagers off the streets. expects that she will graduate from high school, go to college, and get a job. More specifically
attempted to supervise Christina more carefully, but Christina says that her grandmother does not know where she is most of the time. Meanwhile, Christina thinks positively about her future. expects that she will be happy and successful. She does not want or expect to be like her mother. She also expects that she will graduate from high school, go to college, and get a job. More specifically, Christina said that she wants to be a lawyer or “someone who works to get teenagers off the streets.”
1. Would Christina be a good candidate for EMDR, why or why not?
2. What are your concerns about this case and how will you address these?
3. What attachment-based questions do you have about this case (see pg 189 for guidance)
All of us need to feel safe and protected, to have our physical requirements for food, clothing, warmth, healthcare met. One of the flash points with teenagers may be a conflict between parents wish to fulfil these needs and a teenagers apparent desire to frustrate or be unrealistic about them.
to keep them safe, by staying out late, running around with ‘bad company’, engaging in behaviour that you may feel is risky. They may go head to head with you on everything. Boring things like dental and health checks may be something they suddenly turn their noses up about.
The fact that they become contrary, however, doesn’t mean they don’t want you to continue caring and continue to act on their behalf. What would help would be for you to discuss these things with them and meet in the middle. When you are clear about what is your concern and what you’d like to happen but are prepared to hear their point of view, you can get somewhere.
What teenagers want as much as when they were little is your love, your care, your respect and your attention. They want to be noticed by you. Too often, because teenagers are being moody and withdraw into themselves, we respond by ignoring them. Ignoring bad behaviour and not rising to it is one thing; ignoring the person who is annoying us is another. And it can become a pattern, where they mope so we ignore them so they mope even more, convinced we don’t care.